Her Big Os Ended When He Put a Ring On It

Man experienced great sex with his wife whilst they were dating and she was on oral contraceptives. Now that they’re married, she no longer uses birth control, and her rate of orgasm has sharply dropped off. Why has she stopped being able to orgasm, and what can he do to give her the orgasms she once had?
Case #: 1279
Concern：
During my courtship with my wife, our sex lives were great. We had sex often; multiple times a day. And during our sexual escapades, she took the pill to prevent any unwanted surprises. Sure she had the typical side effects of taking contraceptives for extended periods—discharge, pain and the occasional mood swing. But it was a fair trade off for the loads of sex we had.
Discussion：
Now married, she doesn’t take the pill. And now, a new problem has arisen. She can no longer orgasm as she once did. I try various positions. I try different techniques. And embarrassingly enough, I’ve bought helpful toys to appease her. I see no improvement, and I am beginning to feel desperate and depressed. What can I do?
Whoa there, we’re not in crisis mode yet! I know that for a man, the ability to make a female orgasm is tantamount to his ego as a lover, but don’t worry—your wife’s inability to orgasm doesn’t reflect badly on you. Or her! What I think is that your wife’s body either needs, or has grown dependant upon, the hormones in birth control—specifically, estrogen.
Without this steady dose, her body hasn’t realigned itself to produce the proper levels on its own. Possibly, she naturally has low estrogen levels, and birth control helped with that. Either way, prompting her body to produce the correct levels again, and supplementing her for now, will begin to give you both the orgasms you so desire.
A Girl’s Best Friend
Estrogen is an extremely important hormone for female reproductive health. It keeps the vagina healthy, stretchy, and well moisturized. It also occasionally contributes to those mood-swings you were talking about. Without proper estrogen levels, the tissues of the vagina can begin to atrophy, and circulation is reduced to the entire genital area. Without circulation there is essentially no true arousal, as the clitoris and g-spot are unable to become engorged with blood, and vaginal penetration isn’t anything to write home about. These effects alone are enough to keep a woman from having an orgasm.
Touchy-Feely
However, I feel the true cause of your wife’s lack of orgasm stems from estrogen’s effect on oxytocin. You may be familiar with oxytocin as the “bonding hormone”; it’s released when we touch or are touched in a pleasant manner, such as petting an animal, getting a massage, or being close with loved ones. Oxytocin makes us feel protective and nurturing, and when we are the recipients of a caress, we feel loved and secure.
Oxytocin for Orgasm
Oxytocin also has another effect, and if you hadn’t heard about it, you wouldn’t know it. Oxytocin is the hormone that encourages orgasm. Without proper oxytocin levels, it is near impossible for a woman to orgasm, regardless of her arousal, stimulation levels, or anything else. Scientists aren’t sure why, but estrogen regulates oxytocin levels in a positive manner. Without estrogen, oytocin levels are also low, and I think that’s why your wife isn’t having any orgasms.
Your Sex Solution
How can you fix this issue? Increase your wife’s estrogen levels. In a situation like this, where birth control had a marked effect, it would be good to have your wife’s hormone levels tested. It’s quick and easy, and will give you a much better idea of how much estrogen your wife really needs. If she’s only slightly under levels, you might consider putting her on a phytoestrogenic supplement. However, if her estrogen is very low, she might need to take an actual estrogen supplement to get her back to normal.
For now, I recommend beginning a natural formula designed to increase circulation to and rejuvenate the female genital region. (TRY: Herbal Formula for Clitoral Regeneration) This should give your wife back some of the sensitivity she’s been missing. This compound also contains high levels of phytoestrogens, which can act as minute levels of estrogen in the body. It might be enough to get her back to her old self! Don’t give up hope; you just have to find the right amount of estrogen your wife’s body needs to get back on track to orgasm central. Good luck!

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