Training To Fail

A long-time masturbator has discovered that sex with a willing partner requires more time to achieve erections, but they don't last nearly as long. Is the condition treatable? Read on and find out!

Case #: 1461

Concern：

I am a 33 year old man and have been having erection problems since I was in my teens. I used to masturbate up to 3 times a day but growing up I only masturbate once a day now. I no longer have morning erections but I am able to frequently get erections, but not all the time. Every time I am with a woman it becomes really hard to get an erection and when I finally do, it doesn't last long at all. When I do get that short erection, I am unable to have sex because I ejaculate very quickly. I become anxious and nervous. Is there anything that can help me with my erections and also these quick ejaculations?

Discussion：

Students of the martial arts do not spend hundreds of hours repeating the same sequence of motion because their instructors are mean-spirited bullies.

What Are You Practicing?

The goal is to create “muscle-memory” of the technique and imprint it so deeply into the practitioner's body that it can be executed quicker than conscious thought, even under distracting or adverse conditions and especially when it might save the student's life. The same effect can arise from any frequently-repeated actions, both physical and mental; a very similar effect explains how people can learn to solve higher-order math problems without writing them down. Masturbation is no exception, so let's take a closer look at what you've trained your body to do.

Here's Your Gym

If you're like most guys, your masturbation sessions tend to be very fast, and take place far more often than you have sex with a partner. Therefore your body gets trained into responding to sexual stimulation quickly. Trying to slow down your ejaculations when you're with a partner is very similar to training yourself to perform a block-punch-kick combination when you perceive a specific incoming attack and then trying to execute a block-grab-throw combination in response to the same threat.

On top of that, you are “exercising” too often, probably without replenishing the nutrients you expend, as well. Rather than the torn muscles that result from going to the gym every day without giving yourself time to recover, you have likely damaged your prostate and urethra. You may even have elevated levels of prostate-specific antigen (PSA) which makes your semen thinner and flows too freely.

Change Your Regimen

Recovering from over-masturbation requires time and conscious effort. The most important part of the process is letting it start; this can only happen by reducing your ejaculation frequency to the point where healing is possible. No ejaculations for three solid weeks are optimal, but the maximum is no more than once every three or four days.

While you're waiting, you have several possible options to help yourself recover, such as diet and exercise. Many chronic over-masturbators have deficiencies in zinc and B-complex vitamins; do some research and see what foods will give you more of these nutrients. Various meats, cheeses and whole-grains are one source of zinc, and many B-vitamins can be found in green, leafy vegetables.

Establishing a moderate exercise program will help replenish your testosterone levels to boost your erection strength, and the resulting improvement in your physique may build up your self-confidence. You may even find that regular exercise and learning to cook helps reduce your stress levels.

You should also consider taking an all-natural herbal supplement designed specifically to enhance your stamina and strengthen your erection. (TRY: Cong Rong Herbal Formula for Stronger Erections) This formula has many different benefits; boosting your testosterone levels is only the most obvious.

Please keep in mind that your P.E. is the end-product of a bad habit repeated over many years. Recovering from it won't take as long, but it will take time and concerted effort. Apply a mindful approach to the process and your sex life will be where you want it sooner than you expect.