I Need Hard Loving!

Female is only able to experience orgasm through the use of an extremely powerful vibrator. She has never been able to achieve orgasm either through manual stimulation, or through sexual intercourse. She worries that this issue is driving men away. What can she do to increase her ability to orgasm without this vibrator’s presence?

Case #: 1266

Concern：

Hi, my issue is that I have never been able to have an orgasm during sex, orally or through intercourse. I have no problem achieving orgasm via vibrator (it’s an extremely powerful back massager) but not thru manual masturbation. I have tried many times, am very frustrated, and think it drives men away. What can I do to resolve this? I have a bad sexual history, but I have been seeing therapist for 5 years, and have a healthy sexual appetite and desire for men. I am not in a committed relationship, but my significant other and I do have sex each time we see one another. What can I do?

Discussion：

I hate to tell you this, but you’re probably not going to be able to ever rely solely on manual stimulation or intercourse to orgasm. If this is a problem you’ve experienced for your entire sexual career, it’s unlikely that it’s been caused by anything you’ve done to yourself. In fact, it’s fairly common for women to be able to reach orgasm only through the use of a vibrator.

Not Uncommon

It might be that your clitoral nerves just aren’t tantalized by anything other than an extremely strong vibration. It might be that they nerves are farther removed from the epithelial layer than normal, or that you have a lesser concentration of them, or many other possibilities. One thing’s for sure: you shouldn’t feel ashamed of yourself for it.

I can give you some suggestions on revitalizing your clitoris, and while these will give you better circulation and a better clitoral response, you probably won’t stop using your vibrator. Continually using a vibrator causes your body to build scar tissue, which can block your clitoral nerve endings even further, but if using a vibrator allows your to quickly, easily, and enjoyably have an orgasm, I really don’t want to dissuade you from continuing to use that method.

Clear the Air

You need to be honest and upfront with the men you’re having sex with. Tell them you can orgasm, but only through the application of a vibrator. I’m sure a man would much rather know up front that there isn’t anything wrong with his technique, but that it’s just a factor of your physiognomy. A man who isn’t more concerned with giving you pleasure than boosting his ego through the misapplication of his sexual skills isn’t a man you want to keep around anyhow.

A New Sensation

Have you tried experimenting with finding your G-Spot? I commonly recommend this to women who are having issues with orgasm via their clitoris. Your G-Spot is thought to be an extension of your clitoral nerves up through the front of your vagina. As that area is not in heavy contact, there’s generally not any scar tissue buildup, and you might find your internal clitoral nerves are more sensitive, or closely packed, than your external ones. I highly suggest you and your lover do some experimentation in this region, for both your benefits!

Bring on the Blood!

At this point, I recommend you try an herbal supplement that’s designed to increase circulation to your clitoris. (TRY: Herbal Formula for Vaginal & Clitoral Restoration) The formula I have in mind also helps to remove scar tissue build up, and reduces inflammation—all things that will help make your clitoris more sensitive.

The more blood flow you have to your clitoris, the more engorged and sensitive it will become during arousal. Removing inflammation ensures that your veins can adequately supply blood to your entire reproductive area—generating a much better experience overall. Obviously, reducing scar tissue puts you in a better place for general sensitivity, but it also helps to keep your vaginal and clitoral tissues healthy and rejuvenated.

Don’t be ashamed of your body; be proud! You can have an orgasm, and many women can’t! I think that talking with your partner about what gives your pleasure will give both of you a better sexual experience, and I think a little experimentation wouldn’t go awry either. I’m sure that this herbal remedy will increase your sensitivity, which will naturally boost your sex life as well. Wishing you the best!

What to do

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