There's Something Wrong With My Libido

Have you ever wondered why you're not as sexually in tuned with your lover as your peers are? Look no further for the answer to your passionless problems.

Case #: 1762

Concern：

Hello, I'm a 22 year old female and I have a really low sex drive for someone who is my age. I know that people my age are going crazy with things like this but I just don't have any want to do the same. I have a really good relationship with my boyfriend but I don't know what can be the problem with me. Is there any insight into something I can do that will just turn the switch to the "on" position? I want to be able to have sex and want to have sex with my boyfriend.

Discussion：

Firstly, you are definitely not alone in your feeling this way. A lot of woman around your age go through the same thing, and a lot of it has to do with simply being a woman. At the moment, your boyfriend is most likely in his sexual prime, while you yourself have your mind set on other more pressing matters. In about eight years this will shift. Most women do not reach the peak of their sexuality until they enter their thirties. . .Which is great for the you of the future, but what about right now?

There are actually some great things you and your partner can do to spice up your relationship when it comes to the bedroom.

What To Do

When it comes to flipping on the light switch of arousal, the possibilities are really endless. It could be as simple as lighting a few candles, or as extensive as attaching a sex swing to your bedroom ceiling. Whatever that special something may be, you'll need to figure out just what it is so that you may utilize it to the fullest.

An easy way to begin finding out what your fantasy requirements are is to first explore your own body. Once a week, you should set some “Me time” aside. During this time you can feel free to masturbate to your heart’s content. I recommend doing this because it is in fact important to know what you need to get you over the edge. Once you have that knowledge you can share it with your significant other, so that they may do that exact action for you. My motto is, “If I don't know what I want, how will my boyfriend know?”

Together Is Better

For about five years I never had a single orgasm during intercourse. I could, however, bring myself to climax each and every time I masturbated. For years I was so confused. I couldn't figure out why I couldn't have an orgasm with sexual partners, while I had never had a problem doing it myself. Finally, I came to the realization that I needed to show my partner what I was doing, and not just expect them to know exactly what would set me off.

I share this little story a lot, because it expresses my point about cluing your boyfriend or girlfriend in to what you need in bed. If we don't speak up, we won't be left satisfied.

Any time I feel like my relationship has entered a sexual rut, I try to think of something fun, sexy, and simple that will snap us out of it. Taking a stroll around the local adult toy store with my partner for instance, is always good for a laugh. . .And it also gets us both into that sexy state of mind.

If you have soap and a bathtub, what you really have is a romantic night at home. Try taking a sensual bubble bath together. Turn on some soothing music and light some candles for an extra erotic touch. (SEE: Libido Boosting Passion Candle Massage)

The real key to a better sex life and setting your inner passion aflame is getting creative.