I Don't Want My Low Libido To Ruin My Marriage

Learn about a woman who is trying to get her sex drive back on track before the big day.

Case #: 1412

Concern：

After getting a divorce from my ex husband I decided to become celibate for an entire decade. Now, I am getting married soon and I want this marriage to last. I know that sex is a very important part of marriage but I have some problems. I have been gaining weight and I have also been on antidepressants for the last three years. I have noticed that I can no longer have an orgasm if I masturbate with my hand but mostly with a vibrator and my libido has nearly vanished. I have sharp pains in my vagina. Can you help me with my problems? I want to have a healthy sex life with my new husband.

Discussion：

Many women who use vibrators on a regular basis do not realize the amount of damage they are actually doing to their vaginas until it is too late.

Bad Vibrations

Vibrators and toys are a great way to break up the monotony every once in a while. However, using a vibrator every time you masturbate may cause the clitoral nerve endings and the vaginal tissues some significant damage. The vibrations can also lead to inflammation around the clitoris as well, which will eventually cause the area to numb.

The Female Orgasm

Unlike men, there are many factors that go into the buildup of a woman's orgasm. This basically means that there are also numerous reasons why a woman may not be able to reach climax. Though many cases of orgasm difficulties are centered around psychological problems, there are also many physical problems that could be contributing to the loss of sensitivity or the low libido. Some causes include, but are not limited to pelvic surgery, fatigue, and headaches.

There are also some medications, such as antidepressants or blood pressure medications that are notorious for decreasing the female sex drive because they take away the ability to reach climax. Menopause, or premenopause could also be a possibility, because it will lower a woman's estrogen levels.

Fix It Fast

No matter what the root of the problem is, this low libido is definitely treatable. I would suggest your first course of action involve the discontinued use of your vibrator. At this point, the toy is only doing more and more damage as you continue to use it.

Once that part is squared away, I would really begin to focus on your diet. Fatty foods, red meat, and a lot of dairy products tend to lower your energy levels and your libido. You should try sticking to fresh fruits and vegetables for the in-between meal time snacks. Exercising up to four times per week will also increase your libido and energy levels. A minimum of six glasses of water each day will help the liver out on its quest to cleanse the body.

I would also recommend utilizing herbs such as Milk Thistle, Mulberry, Catuaba, and Cnidium. (TRY: Natural Formula for Intensified Orgasms) These natural herbs will help to flush out the toxins that linger within the body, while relaxing the vaginal and uterine muscles. They will also improve blood circulation throughout the vaginal area.

If, for any reason you do not see an improvement over the next few months, it may be wise to talk to your doctor about your symptoms in order to prevent other harmful infections. This type of condition is reversible, as long as you act fast and aggressively.