I'm Too Big To Please My Partner

Learn how a young many desperately wants to save his girlfriend's sex life, but fears he is simply 'too big.'

Case #: 821

Concern：

I’m 17 with a 9 inch long, 6.5 inch girth penis. My girlfriend complains that it’s too big and causes sex to be painful. We have tried lubes and almost everything we can to "widen" her before intercourse. What can I do to cause her less pain?

Discussion：

It's not too often that we hear a woman complaining about her man's penis being too big, but when she does you know it's got to be causing some major discomfort. The vagina is a wondrously stretchy thing; but there's only so much it can be pulled, and if the proper precautions have not been seen to beforehand, some serious pain will soon follow.

How To Prepare Your Partner

One of the biggest mistakes a man can make while on the verge of 'getting some' is to jump right to the main course. This isn't a problem if you're both looking for a quick roll in the hay, but most of the time a woman needs to really feel the passion you have for her in order to really get all hot and bothered. The next time you're about to get down, get romantic first. Try to relax your partner by giving her a massage or taking a soothing hot bath together. This will help her feel more comfortable and also help her vaginal muscles to loosen up a bit.

Anticipation

Since your girlfriend has now already seen how large you are and remembers the pain she's experienced during intercourse, she is probably going to anticipate pain again the next time you engage in sex. When a woman is feeling anxious, it becomes difficult to produce the proper amount of lubrication it takes to keep sex slippery and sexy. Try using some extra water-based lube during four play to help things run more smoothly.

Perfect Positioning

Because it's your girlfriend who's experiencing the pain you want to let her set the pace and let her be in control of how deep or shallow your thrusts are. The best way to do this is by letting her be on top. This will give her control over the depth of penetration. Another option is missionary, however you should keep in mind the positioning of the pelvis. The more a woman's pelvis is tilted in missionary position, the deeper the penetration. Also, if your partners legs are very far apart the thrusting will feel that much more powerful.

How To Heal

In the mean time, she will need to let her vagina heal in order to really have a pleasurable experience during intercourse. The best way to do this is by abstaining from sex for a time and utilizing natural herbs such as Dong Quai, Black Cohosh, and Mexican Wild Yam. These herbs will work together in an effort to break down excessive amounts of prostaglandin E-2, which weaken the vagina and put the genital area at risk of infections. (SEE: Vaginal Regeneration & Realignment Formula) They will also help to improve vaginal elasticity and realign any unbalanced hormones.