Have I Broken My Orgasm

Learn how a lonesome lover has loved herself a little too hard.

Case #: 1135

Concern：

My boyfriend must travel out of town for work. So at least three times a month, I do not see my boyfriend for 2-3 days. At times, I get lonely-any twenty something-year-old-woman would. While he is away, I pleasure myself. I use toys, my finger, and yes, I've even used phallic items to pleasure myself.

Freud would be proud of me! But he may be disappointed by the fact that sex has lost its appeal. See, it appears that I can no longer feel the same sensation as before. When my boyfriend and I engage in sex, I feel little to no stimulation. I feel almost numb. What have I done to myself?

Discussion：

Let me just begin with explaining why I completely sympathize with your situation. My boyfriend also travels for work as a cinematographer. Some times he's away from home for months shooting films, and I know how lonely it can get without that special someone to lean on. It definitely takes a strong couple to get through some of those moments, so I commend you on the solidarity of your relationship.

A Far Away Love

That being said, I'd like to focus on this vaginal numbness that you're experiencing. As I'm sure you're aware; vaginal sensitivity is pretty crucial to achieving climax. If we really can't feel how we're being pleasured there is practically no way to reach orgasm.

The Vibration Of Masturbation

Don't get me wrong, I love my vibrator as much as the next girl. But there is such a notion as too much of a good thing. When a woman is utilizing toys, both internally and outside of the vagina, on a frequent basis she sets herself up for some nerve damage. Think of it this way, have you ever been orally stimulated, and as your partner keeps licking a certain area, that part of your vagina feels less of the sensation as before? If you have, you've experienced some very minor clitoral exhaustion.

This occurs when a woman's DHEA and testosterone levels have, for some reason, been depleted. Too much use of the good vibrations can leave the clitoris desensitized over time, and the low levels of hormones deflect orgasm from being achieved.

Hormones Are A Must

There are some hormones that are absolutely essential for a healthy sex life. For instance, in order to keep the vaginal and uterine muscles relaxed, it is imperative for our sex organs to produce the proper amount of prostaglandins. Nitric oxide is what keeps a woman's clitoris erect during sex, and prevents the clitoris from becoming rigid.

Sensitivity Renewal

In order to diminish the numbness that is surrounding your genital area, the production of neurotransmitters must be increased to allow your clitoral nerve endings to heal. Natural Remedies that include Mexican Wild Yam and Pumpkin Seed will do that and much more. (SEE: Clitoral & Vaginal Desensitization Herbal Remedy) These natural herbs will ease your vaginal muscles back into a relaxed state, and also begin to regulate the correct production of estrogen and serotonin. They will also help to prevent vaginal dryness and increase the pleasure of an orgasm tenfold.