Phone Sex: A Ladies Guide

Ladies, your first phone sex conversation can feel…well, weird. You’re not used to saying raunchy things without the presence of your partner’s physical being. Don’t worry, several women share your concerns.

Still, the distance between couples presents plenty of complications, especially in the sex department. If you find your partner asking for phone sex, here’s how to ease into this uncomfortable situation.

1. Start Slow. You don’t need to go firing off steamy text messages more suitable for a XXX movie script. Ease into phone sex with a few, “I miss you” or “I wish you were here” text messages. The emotional connection you feel from these messages will translate into sexual desires once you start your phone conversation.


2. Prepare. Phone sex, unlike traditional sex, requires planning. Think of phone sex as a movie—except you play the role of the director. You want to layout a general script of events, which can include everything from the ending to the various positions.


3. Visualize. Your imagination can provide a powerful experience, and the better you visualize, the more beneficial your sexual experience.


4. Details, Details, Details. What you’re wearing, how you feel and what you want done all provide vivid details to let his imagination run wild. Provide him with plenty of details to assure he remains satisfied.


5. Use your memory. Remember past experience where you had the best sex of your life? Well, relive those moments with your phone sex conversations.


6. Include some props. Sexual props—vibrators, dildos and kegel balls—can all enhance the experience, so make sure you have these toys on hand when you need them.