Is My Orgasm Ever Coming Back

Learn of a woman who's been married for 23 years hasn't had an orgasm in 15.

Case #: 820

Concern：

I have been married for 23 years this year and I haven’t had an orgasm for 15 years. My husband has a large penis. When erect it is eight and a half inches long and almost four inches round and I love it and him. We have sex almost daily and he is a kind and considerate lover. Often he makes love to me for almost an hour before he ejaculates. We have tried oral sex, vibrators, dildos everything in the search for my elusive orgasm, we even tried dribbling ice cream topping on my clitoris and letting him lick it off.

We even had a plan to take a break from each other so I could try sex with other partners and I had sex with at least 10 other men and none of them could make me orgasm. One of them even ejaculated and was ready to have sex again within seconds. This sex all happened within a span of a week so I don't know how I didn't orgasm. For some partners we went on for hours and did it more than once a day. We have run out of plans. What can be the problem? I want to return to my husband and be able to please him by having an orgasm. Please help.

Discussion：

I find that a lot of woman that experience sudden orgasm difficulty are the ones that have a lot of sex. We all go through that honeymoon faze with our significant other. My partner and I, for example had sex two to three times a day when we first got together. It was wonderful but our genitals soon became sexually exhausted from the amount of intercourse we were having. It actually became painful to even try to orgasm, and my poor boyfriend's penis was in serious pain. Since that beginning faze, we do have a bit less sex, but it's definitely a higher quality of intercourse.

Burnt Out

Sometimes, as sexual beings, we just get burnt out on each other. That doesn’t necessarily mean we should start looking for answers outside our relationships, it just means there is some work to be done.

No More 'O'

There are many reasons why a woman's ability to orgasm has lessened. Some of those reasons being natural aging, childbirth, or medication. In all of these cases however, no amount of sexual hours put in will cure your orgasm qualms. It's important to really understand that not many women out there can have an orgasm through penetration alone. In fact, all we really need is some intense friction applied to our clitoris.

Getting It Back

Before you go back and let your husband figure it out, you should have an idea of what you need first hand. I would advise you to really explore your own body and figure out what makes it tick. What may have worked for you 15 years ago has most likely changed over the years and there's no time like the present to reintroduce yourself to yourself. I would recommend staying away from the vibrators though, as that might open up a whole new can of worms.

How To Get Stimulated

The best natural way to revitalize and rejuvenate your clitoral nerve endings is by way of herbs such as Maca, Dong Quia, and Mexican Wild Yam. (SEE: Natural Clitoral Revitalization) Above all else, these herbs will help to get that much needed circulation going in you clitoral region again.

As for getting off while engaged in sexual intercourse with your husband, I would recommend my favorite position. I too had not had an orgasm in years until I recently figured out how to get the best out of this position. Once you're on top of your man, lean slightly forward so that your clitoris is grinding against his pubic bone. Set the pace nice and slow and let that orgasm wash over you like a wave. And also, take a breather in between intercourse. A few days without sex always makes the sex better when you two finally come together again. As always, absence makes the heart...and the vagina grow fonder.