Is My Sex Life On The Right Track

Learn how a woman fears she may never have an orgasm up to the porn industry's standard.
Case #: 929
Concern：
I was told by my husband that I should feel 'pleasure' while the penis is inside my vagina. What about other women? I saw those porno actresses on DVD, they look like they could feel so much pleasure during penile penetration. I feel I am a defective woman if I can't feel and achieve orgasm while the penis is inside me. What exactly is my vagina supposed to feel?
Discussion：
I have a feeling that you and your husband do not see eye to eye when it comes to sex. And that's perfectly fine. Women do not feel gratifying pleasure the same way men do, if only it were that simple. While a man may feel sexual pleasure just from the stroke of penetration, a woman's pleasure is a bit more detailed.
Venus And Mars
Over 90% of women are only able to reach climax through clitoral stimulation. I myself have never had an orgasm based off of penetration alone. To be perfectly honest, I don't really understand how the other ten percent are doing it. Sure, penile penetration feels great, but in order to really bring you over the edge the clitoris must be stimulated.
Porn vs. Reality
The thing about watching porn is, it's purely a fantasy. And most of those fantasies are mainly geared towards men. The “actresses” in these films are just doing their jobs . . . Acting. You should not feel like a defective woman because you don't feel the level of pleasure that your husband thinks you should be having. Unless your husband has previously had a vagina I'm guessing he has no clue. What I do know however, is that sex is meant to be a pleasurable experience for both parties. The key to that mutual enjoyment is having an open dialog with your significant other.
Clitoris Sensitivity
There is the possibility that there are other complications clouding your sex life. If your clitoris has lost some of its feeling, this could be the real root of your problems. The clitoris is made up of a delicate set of nerves that may become damaged. Birth control, low hormone levels, and vibrator over use are all factors that could lead to clitoral damage.
Rejuvenating Herbal Treatment
Natural herbs such as Mexican Wild Yam, Dong Quia, and Mucuna Pruriens are great for; increasing blood circulation and micro circulation in the clitoris, repairing damaged nerve endings, and reducing inflammation in the clitoris. (SEE: Clitoral Revitalization Herbal Remedy) They will also help to balance out any possible unbalanced levels of estrogen and progesterone.
You may also benefit from doing a few daily kegel exercises. Kegels are great for strengthening the pelvic floor muscles, and tightening up the vagina. If you've never done a kegel, or you're a little foggy on how to do them, don't worry they're quite easy. The next time you're on the toilet, try starting and stopping the flow of your urine. If you can control the stream, you can kegel without any problems. Try doing this exercise ten times, three times a day for maximum tightness.

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