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Overflowing at Orgasm: Why Am I Drenching the Bed When I Cum?

This young woman produces female ejaculate upon orgasm. She has to use a towel to contain all the liquid that surges forth. She is embarrassed, although her partner sees no problem with it, and wants to be rid of this occurrence. Can she stop it?

Case #: 1637

Concern：

This is a really embarrassing story but I am going to tell it anyways. Whenever my boyfriend is giving me oral sex I squirt a lot, and I mean a lot! There's so much fluid that I need to have a towel under me so it can capture the liquid. He tells me that it doesn't bother him at all but it bothers me. It really makes me feel self-conscious because I never thought it was possible for so much liquid to come out. It feels as if I’m peeing, but I know that is not the situation because I always use the restroom before and empty my bladder. How can I fix this? I don't want to be self-conscious anymore. I hate that feeling.

Discussion：

I’m sorry you’ve had such a negative experience with your ejaculation! You’re actually something of a rarity; it’s commonly believed that only about ten percent of the female population can produce ejaculate matter on orgasm. Nowadays, there is more and more literature, attempting to teach women how to accomplish what you’ve achieved without trying! It’s considered by many to be incredibly sexy and stimulating, and as a woman who can’t, I feel there is reverse stigma suggesting we “non-squirters” can’t attain a “true” orgasm. So, although you are currently at odds with your situation, I suggest you try viewing it from another angle.

Can’t Stop the Flow

I’m sorry to tell you that there is no real way to keep from squirting on orgasm. I can assure you that it isn’t urine, and that it is perfectly natural in some women. As I mentioned above, many men and women consider female ejaculation to be the mark of a true orgasm, and enjoy the sight of a woman’s orgasmic pleasure.

What is It?

Female ejaculate is thought to be produced in the Skene’s glands, a woman’s feminine twin to the male prostate gland. While it emerges through the urethra, it is in no way urine, as it has been tested by numerous authorities and found to contain no ammonia, the signifier of urine. The samples tested also did not contain significant levels of urea, the solid component of urine. The amount of fluid can vary from a few teaspoons to a few ounces.

Enjoy It!

I’m sure it’s embarrassing for you to have liquid issuing from an orifice during sex, especially in a way that feels so much like peeing. Take comfort in the knowledge that it isn’t urine, and let the good times flow! Many women state that the experience of having a gushing orgasm is infinitely more pleasurable than a non-ejaculatory orgasm. It’s smart to use a towel, even if it feels less than romantic, unless you constantly want to be washing your sheets.

You can’t stop having ejaculatory orgasms, but you can reassure yourself that the ejaculation isn’t urine, through the control of specific muscle groups. If that’s something you want to be thinking about as you approach orgasm—and I suggest probably not, because it will negatively impact your entire sexual experience—then you ought to look into Aswini Mudra Yoga. It can help you to strengthen the muscles that surround your bladder, vagina, and anus—giving you the ability to perfectly manage the actions of each area.

Please don’t stress any more about your uncommon ability—be proud!