Sex With Disabilities: A Solution for Couples

It may sound blunt, but people will ask you: “Can you have sex?” You might respond with a simple “yes,” or you might follow with something sarcastic,  “Yes, would you like to?” Most people assume because of your disability that you lack desires; your disability doesn’t make you inhumane. You have the same urges as other men and women. Except in your situation, sex requires a bit more creativity. Sex may be a bit more spontaneous, and your body, well, your body will not always do what you tell it to do. That’s okay. We’re here to offer some guidance, a few solutions and maybe even a couple of laughs along the way.

Understanding Your Body

Kissing or seeing a naked individual can ignite a person’s sexual urges. For you, it may not be as simple as a kiss or the sight of a naked man or woman. No, sometimes disabilities inhibit desires. Sometimes, disabilities cause sexual urges to occur at random—if at all—forcing couples to get creative. And for intimacy to occur, individuals need to understand their bodies and their disabilities. Whether you consult online forums or look at the signs that increase your desires, it helps to know when and how to apply stimulation. Understanding your body can too help you

• Discover what positions seem feasible
• Learn how to prepare for sex
• See how to pleasure a partner

Massage Candles Can Boost Desires

For some individuals, massage candles can boost elevation. While certain areas of your body may not experience stimulation, the increased blood flow, elevated sense of relaxation and improved comfort from a massage and massage candles can

• Eliminate erectile dysfunction
• Elevate female sex drive
• Increase orgasm potency
• Relax the body for sexual desires

Reading the Necessary Materials

While finding comfort from forums, massage oils or candles can boost your desires, the lingering question remains what can and can’t you do in bed? Professionals better suited than us can answer these questions. From psychologists to medical practitioners, book authors specializing in disabilities can grant individuals

• Knowledge for how to perform sex with disabilities
• Information on sex positions made for individuals with disabilities
• Communication skills for discussing sex with a partner
• Information on erogenous zones that increase stimulation, i.e., the ear, nipples or hands

So whether you pick up a book or a few candles, know that you’re not alone in your sexual exploration.