Getting Past A Fear of Intimacy

When two people share a deep and passionate emotional connection, sex comes naturally. But all too often that connection can be missing or broken by a lack of communication, pressures and anxieties outside the relationship, trust issues or a lack of sexual knowledge. These issues can affect physical intimacy, manifesting as both physical and psychological issues, such as erectile dysfunction, physical appearance distortion or low sex drive.

Research has shown that a satisfactory sexual relationship is important to mental and physical health and extends such benefits as a lower risk for depression, fewer heart problems and a longer life span.

Attempts to reignite the spark of passion can be intimidating. But getting past a fear of intimacy doesn’t have to be uncomfortable. Knowing how to use a few sensual triggers can easily jump start passionate, red-hot sex.

Tip #1 - Discover the sensual spots

Beyond the genitals, everyone has specific places on their body that trigger pleasure. They are varied and highly individual, so it’s important to take time to notice the reaction when these sensual spots are gently touched, caressed or kissed. Try fingertips, the collarbone, earlobe, nape of the neck, navel, knees, palms or toes. Discovering each other’s pleasure points is a powerful way to deepen intimacy. Check out a list of Sexy Triggers

Tip #2 - Asana Love

Many yoga poses can help when hormonal fluctuations contribute to a diminishing sex drive. Poses that involve bending forward and twisting stimulate the glands and can help regulate hormones in the body.

Tip #3 - Sensual Massage

Sensual massage in a safe, romantic environment can help a partner relax, trust and enjoy their body. Setting the mood with soft lighting, music, scented oils and lots of slow, unrushed attention can help even strained relationships reconnect.