Expressing Your Disappointment With Sex

You’re disappointed with his or her sexual performance. He lacked endurance or size; she, technique and form.

Both women and men tend to experience disappointment in the bedroom, and everything from size and technique to moaning and kissing can leave people unsatisfied. The simple solution would be to remain forthright and to explain the issue; the difficult part is explaining the problem without hurting your partner.
 

Being Gentle With Disappointment

Always be thoughtful. You’re far from perfect, and when you express disappointment, offer advice for how he or she can improve. You may not like how your partner performs a certain move, so use this opportunity to show him or her how to please you.

Don’t wait until later to express disapproval or make sneering comments to vent your frustration. Voice your likes and dislikes, but pay attention to the following:

• Your tone while expressing disapproval
• Your love and admiration for your partner
• Your disappointment with an aspect of their lovemaking
• Your dedication to helping your partner improve

You will feel disappointment and frustration in your relationship. You’ll need to learn how to express disapproval without leading to resentment.

Sure, you will feel a bit of emotional distress, and you may cause a bit of emotional damage to your partner, but with time, patience and the right voice, you’ll find yourself a bit more content.