"Too Stressed For Sex" - Anxiety is the Enemy of Female Arousal
Pleasurable sex depends upon the body’s chemical and neurological processes functioning smoothly. Anxiety can disrupt these processes and negatively impact libido, sexual readiness and pleasure. This issue is especially true with women whose sexual responses may be more vulnerable than men to neurochemical imbalances related to emotional conditions.
What the Studies Indicate
As doctors in one research study observed: “A woman's desire for sex is based on a complex interaction of many components…including physical well-being, emotional well-being, experiences, beliefs, lifestyle and current relationship…a problem in any of these areas can affect sexual desire.”
Medical researchers documented the effect of anxiety on women’s libido in studies using Positron Emission Tomography, an advanced imaging system that produces three-dimensional pictures of the body’s processes. PET brain scans revealed that when the anxiety-producing areas of women’s brains become active, the body causes sexual desire and associated physical responses, i.e., vaginal lubrication, to shut down.
When physical responses shut down, women lose all interest in sex – they may even become hostile to their lover’s advances. Over time, these diminished sexual desires can lead to frustration, embarrassment and guilt for the woman and her partner.
Managing Stress Levels
Minimizing stress is crucial to a woman’s sexual health. Fortunately, there are several steps that women can take to reduce anxiety. Open, honest and emotionally safe communication with her partner is the first step. (Note to all men who don’t like to talk about their ladies’ feelings – get over it!
She will be a better partner to you if you are a sympathetic and a supportive listener.) Physical activity -- walking, hitting the gym, yoga, Pilates, or whatever you’re into -- can minimize anxiety and relax the mind.