Rollercoaster of Love

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By Kate Gorrell Conditions: Women's Low Sex Drive Menopause Causes: birth control pills Age: 36 - 55

His wife has been on birth control for twenty years, and has noticed changes in her sex drive throughout. She is now forty years old, and her sex drive has diminished. How can he rejuvenate her sex drive and restore their sex life?

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My wife has a problem: she is 40 years old and about 5'3" at about 135 pounds. She has been on birth control for about 20 years now and I have seen her sex drive fluctuate. Her sex drive has gone from high, to medium, and now low. Is there any way to keep her sex drive steady at one level? I really want her to have a high sex drive so she can satisfy my needs. Please help.


I’m sorry that you think your wife’s sex drive exists only to satisfy your needs, but yes, I can help you to increase her sex drive again. The problem you’re experiencing right now is that as your wife begins menopause, all of her hormones are in decline. Because she’s on hormonal birth control, this is ameliorated somewhat in her levels of estrogen and progesterone; however, nothing is serving to increase her waning levels of testosterone.
Menopause is No Joke
You also need to have some consideration for the changing state of life your wife is going through. Menopause is an intense time, and one that needs to be approached with compassion and understanding by anyone not experiencing it. You’re lucky that a decreased sex drive is the only issue your wife is experiencing. Many women feel as though they’re going crazy as their hormone levels wax and wane; they experience sudden panic attacks, bursts of heat, weight gain, brain fog, and many other irritating and confusing issues.
A Man’s Hormone Can Help
To recover your wife’s sex drive, you must restore her testosterone levels. Women don’t need much testosterone, but without it they lose arousal and the desire for sex. Your wife will still be receptive to sex—she just won’t seek it out. If you want her to be a tiger in bed, you need to boost her testosterone just enough to get her burning for you again, without putting hair on her chest.
Testosterone is also necessary for muscle tone, fat burning, stamina, and clear-headedness. This means that you might have also noticed a loss of vaginal tone and grip. Increasing testosterone will cause your wife’s pubococcygeus muscles to regain tension, providing a better sexual experience for you, and a better orgasm for your wife.
Cream or Pill?
An easy, controllable way to do this that I recommend for many menopausal women is to try a testosterone cream. The cream can be applied directly to the genital area, and the amount of testosterone absorbed is quite limited. You can experiment with frequency and dosage until you find one that suits, without having to worry about her developing a moustache.
You might also try an herbal supplement. It will minutely increase the levels of testosterone in her system, enough so that you see results, without overwhelming her hormone balance. (SEE: Menopausal Women Libido Booster Formula) The herbs that will be the most beneficial are Ashwaganda and Muira Puama. Ashwagandha has a testosterone-like effect on the body, but is completely able to be processed by the body, unlike steroids or other androgens. Muira Puama is a powerful stimulant and building block for the production of testosterone.
Using this remedy regularly will soon have your desiring sex as much as ever. Take care of her during this time!

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NewAmerican5 posted on Thu, 03/20/2014 - 12:31
I have recently read so many negative things about birth control. Women just aren't wise to stop the use if they are having problems or something because if you start having problems, you should stop use and seek a way to fix that problem. The faster you were to take this herbal treatment, the faster you would be able to heal and then go onto your normal life. Some women just choose to wait until the last minute when the situation has become worse.
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