All Stress and No Play: Obligations at Work and Home Have Stifled Her Sexual Desire

She’s stressed from both home and work, yet she doesn’t see the reason for her lack of sexual desire. She wants and enjoys sex, but the stress in her life keeps her from engaging as usual. If she’s going to reclaim that lovin’ feeling, she’s going to have to manage her stress and take an herbal supplement.
Case #: 1791
Concern：
I went into GNC to find something to help me get aroused. Both my job and home life create enormous amounts of stress. I want to have sex with my boyfriend, but I cannot get as aroused as I once did. I love sex, and I miss feeling those intense orgasms. What’s wrong with me?
Discussion：
The answer to your question “what’s wrong with me” can be summed up in one word: stress. On top of the havoc stress wreaks on your body – fatigue, irritability, even depression – it also kills libido. Plain and simple, sex loses its appeal once stress takes over.
Living a Demanding Life
Let’s face it: life is no piece of cake. Between the commutes, bills, work pressures, and endless chores at home, stress has the ability to slip in and hold tight. This reaction, which causes the heart to accelerate and muscles to clench, is perfectly normal. Stress in limited amounts can even be beneficial to a person. It permits more intense concentration, hones the senses and fuels creativity. But stress rarely comes in small doses, and over an extended period of time, it shuts down important responses.
One of the most prominent physical symptoms of stress is fatigue. This in and of itself can reduce libido – few people want to engage in sex when they’re tired. Other physical afflictions, including muscle tension and headaches, further reduce your body’s desire for pleasure.
Internally, stress causes hormone fluctuations that inhibit sexual functioning. The primary hormone released during stress is cortisol, which alerts the brain to trouble. Increased levels of cortisol lead to decreased levels of testosterone – a chemical that drives sexual desire in both men and women.
As testosterone levels drop, so do those of estrogen; the two are invariably connected. Estrogen plays a role in female libido and, equally important, promotes sound vaginal health. This means it helps you feel all those sexy sensations in your clitoris and G-spot that lead to orgasm. When those sensations are deadened because of declining estrogen, orgasms become fewer and libido takes yet another nosedive.
The Subtle Messages in Your Head
As stress puts you into a physical tailspin, it also messes with your mind. When you arrive home after a long day at work, the last thing you probably want is to cuddle. Research shows that cuddling promotes sexual desire and arousal. Without it, you lose an important connection with your partner and begin to slowly turn away from sex. You also lose the spark that encourages the two of you to laugh together, talk to each other and generally behave like a couple.
Whereas men can compartmentalize their thoughts and feel aroused even when under stress, women cannot and do not. This is because female libido exists in the mind, not the body. Now it’s easy to see why stress so effectively kills a woman’s desire. When you’re preoccupied with negative thoughts, you can’t focus on intercourse, much less muster the energy to enjoy it.
Solving the Stress Situation
The key component to a healthy sex life is learning to manage stress. We realize this is easier said than done, but it can be accomplished. Start by finding an activity you enjoy and regularly indulge. Knitting, scrapbooking, reading, cooking: pick one of these or a slew of other activities and immerse yourself – make time for you.
If possible, ask your boyfriend for help around the house to alleviate pressure at home. Don’t be afraid to communicate your needs – it’s the only way your relationship will thrive. Communication will also help awaken your libido.
Physically, your body needs an herbal remedy to rev up juices and ignite desire. (SEE: Herbal Formula for Vaginal Sensitivity Boost) The most effective ingredients for boosting libido include Evening Primrose Oil, Pumpkin Seed and Dong Quai. A quality combination of these and other herbs will modulate hormones, improve vaginal sensitivity and restore your natural desire.

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