Wetting the Bed, Or Not: What's Going on with Female Ejaculation

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By Kate Gorrell Conditions: Women'sVaginal Discharge Symptoms: female ejaculation

I’ve only recently become aware of female ejaculation—say in the past three to four years—but I’ve done enough research on it since then to last me a lifetime. There are so many conflicting ideas on what it is, what it isn’t, whether it happens, how you can make it happen, and various emotional reactions both to being able to and not being able to. I want to clear up a few myths, and hopefully give everyone a better feeling about the entire process.
Nope, Not Pee
First, a little background: female ejaculation is the event in which a woman, at orgasm, expels liquid through her urinary tract opening that is not urine. This liquid may be in large amounts, or just a teaspoonful. This ejaculate, so long as the bladder is empty, is not urine. The liquid was found to be a mix of prostatic fluids, glucose, and creatinine, and biologically serves no purpose, other than potentially having the ability to prevent urinary tract infections resulting from sexual intercourse. It can be clear, or thick and white—similar to semen.
G for Guesswork
Female ejaculation is generally seen to be the result of stimulation of the G-Spot. Many women learned about the Grafenberg spot, colloquially known as the G-Spot, in the late nineties and early millennium years. It’s a small area on the front of the vagina, dense with nerves. It’s thought to be an extension of the clitoral nervous system. During sex, it can swell up and be distinguishable from the wall of the vagina. However, this does not occur in every woman. For some women, it’s simply a difference in texture on their vaginal wall, and for some women there are no differentiating characteristics at all. It can be quite a challenge to find.
Anyhow, female ejaculation is said to occur most regularly from continuous stimulation of this G-Spot. The G-Spot is thought to sit directly behind the urethral sponge, a clump of erectile tissue that swells during arousal and compresses the urethra, preventing slippage during sex. This spongy mass contains the Skene’s glands, from which female ejaculate is said to emerge.
Put the Pedal to the Metal, Girl!
If this area is rhythmically and forcibly compressed, the result can be a G-Spot orgasm. It is during this type of orgasm that female ejaculation is said to occur. However, some women ejaculate without G-Spot stimulation, and some women can’t ejaculate even with it.
If you want to try squirting, look into how to stimulate the G-Spot. It can actually be a bit difficult to find and properly manipulate. Even if you don’t squirt, you’ll still have a great time. G-Spot orgasms do feel like a whole-body experience. But give your partner a heads-up; they can take some time and determination.
Don’t Get Faked Out
That’s pure biology. But let’s discuss. No, not every woman can ejaculate. No, really. I know what I’m talking about here. I read so many headlines about how to teach your girlfriend to gush, or how to get any girl to squirt, and all sorts of other how-to guides for men to get women wet ’n wild, but it really depends on the girl, her emotional comfort level, and her physiology.
How Come She Can and I Can’t?
It’s getting to the point where a woman who can’t ejaculate views herself as abnormal. She’s adventurous, she’s tried it all, but the gushing never happens; what’s wrong with her? She’s not alone! She’s in the majority. Studies show that anywhere from six to eleven percent of all females ejaculate. That leaves a minimum of ninety percent who can’t. Keep your how-tos off my body!
What’s Happening Down There?
On the flipside, many women are still in the dark about female ejaculation, women who can and do ejaculate regularly. Ladies fear that they’re actually wetting the bed at orgasm, and see it as an embarrassment rather than an exciting bedroom trick. Some even view it as a nuisance, stating that the need to use a towel during intercourse ruins the mood.
Girl Power!
To you women who can, I say, don’t fight your ability! No, it’s not pee, so let go and have a good time. To you women who can’t, I say, don’t worry about it! Your sex is still great, and you can still have a G-Spot orgasm, you just won’t have anything physical to show for it. You should never feel self-conscious about anything you can, can’t, want to, or don’t want to do in the bedroom.

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