Mike’s Struggle - His Premature Ejaculations embarrassed him

Mike, 28, was a severe sufferer of premature ejaculation, which is normally defined as the inability to delay ejaculation to the point where it is mutually satisfying for both partners. In Mike's unfortunate case, feelings of nervousness and despair only worsened the problem causing to ejaculate even before any sexual contact was initiated.
 
Research has shown that premature ejaculation is often caused or complicated by underlying psychological concerns that contribute to the inability to delay ejaculation. Mike entered a vicious cycle in which his confidence was shattered and his sex life was destroyed; each sexual encounter in which he "failed" only worsened the problem. Though his case was severe, before it became complicated it started out like a typical case of premature ejaculation:
 
“My second girlfriend, and the first girlfriend that I experienced premature ejaculation with, sometimes complained that we didn't have sex long enough. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that it was true. We never had sex for longer than two minutes and sometimes I would orgasm in under a minute. I never thought that I had premature ejaculation but the more I thought about it, the less I could last in sex. After we broke up, I thought that maybe the problem was with her and not with me, and that maybe the next girl I have sex with will make the situation better. So along comes another girl and sure enough I cum very fast. That was when I really became worried and tried to learn find ways of fixing the problem. No matter what I did, it didn't work. I tried Kegel exercises and I even wore two condoms once. I tried to distract myself from thinking about things that would arouse me during sex and after a while, I became nervous and stopped having sex all together. I didn't have sex for almost a year until I tried to forget about the problem or pretend like it wasn't there. Then it happened again.”
 
Those who suffer from premature ejaculation usually experience varying degrees of the dysfunction. In Mike's case, his problem progressed and worsened, like many sufferers of PE. What is certain is that most men will experience some form of PE at least once in their lives (Incidental Premature Ejaculation without known causes) while the majority of men will experience it often (Persistent & Chronic Premature Ejaculation). However, until it becomes a serious problem, men are encouraged to understand that it happens a lot and shouldn't be taken too seriously. What Mike didn't want to admit was that his problem was hurting his relationships and damaging his sex life. It is important to seek medical help when this happens, rather than ignoring the incidents of premature ejaculation. Judging by what happened to Mike next, it becomes clear why:
 
“After I finally had sex again after taking a year away from my problems, I started suffering from depression and performance anxiety. Sometimes I couldn't even get an erection. I remember a time with my girlfriend when I became too excited and ejaculated before I even entered her. There was another time when we were about to have sex and she started touching my penis and I had an orgasm. This time I ended the relationship. It was too hard lying all the time about why I didn't want to have sex. Most of the time she would be upset and think she wasn't attractive or that I didn't enjoy being sexual with her. And the times we did have sex I didn't want to admit that I was suffering from premature ejaculation so I would make up stupid excuses and pretend like the premature ejaculation was something else. I said it was because I have been drinking or that my job was giving me stress. I felt bad about always lying and saying things like that so I had to break up with her. After seeing my doctor, he sent me to a sex therapist because he thought my problems were because of psychological reasons. But the therapy wasn't helping and finally I looked for ways of healing myself. I looked on the internet for premature ejaculation and then one day I got lucky and found this website. I’ve been a changed man since. I got back with my girlfriend, the love of my life, and she says I’ve completely changed. Not only do I last longer, I’m able to be more attentive. Our sex is great and I can’t believe I’m saying this, but it was your website’s recommendations that made all the difference.”