Question:

Well, it seems like I last a long time with a hand job from my girlfriend (over 15 minutes) but when it comes to sex it seems like I cum too quickly. I can’t really understand it. It frustrates me and kind of makes me not want to have sex because I’d rather pleasure her than myself; and when I masturbate it seems like I also cum very quickly.


Answer:

The reason it takes longer for you to come when your girlfriend is giving you a hand job is because she doesn’t know exactly what makes you orgasm. When you masturbate, you are in complete control of all the sensations and movements.

During sex, you have control over that as well, because you control the rate of thrust and the angle of penetration. When she does all the work, she may not be touching all the right spots. She might be going too fast or maybe too slow. Perhaps the pressure is too light or too hard. There are several variables that can’t be adjusted as quickly as when you do it. So obviously, it will take longer to build to a climax.

During sex, the position you are in can affect how quickly you come. Let her be on top. This will take away your control of speed and penetration, allowing her to orgasm faster while slowing down yours. Also, while you’re lying down, it’s easier for blood to pool and fill your penis, which aids in ejaculation restraint and provides a harder erection.

Also, concentrate more on foreplay and her sensations in the beginning of sex. It naturally takes longer for women to orgasm than it does for men, so having her primed and more turned on than you before you penetrate will help to decrease the time you need to be inside of her.

Think about cutting down or even eliminating masturbation while you’re having sex with your girlfriend. Masturbation trains the sexual nerves to react faster to stimulation, which causes you to ejaculate sooner.

Furthermore, masturbation drains the body of chemicals used to create an erection and to help delay ejaculation. You’re wasting your resources on masturbating and not leaving enough for sex.

If you must masturbate, replace the hormones you are losing by taking herbal supplements. Remedies that include epimedium, white peony, and cinnamon twig will help to invigorate the body and aid in the production of sexual hormones needed for proper sexual functioning.

Also make sure the product you choose contains dang gui, cistanche, gardenia, and cnidium fruit. These will help your premature ejaculation by strengthening the nerves that hold back ejaculation while soothing the impulses that make you orgasm in the first place. This will dramatically improve your endurance and the length of time you can have sex before having to ejaculate.

In addition, make sure you slow down when you do masturbate. Try to hold off ejaculation for as long as you can. Retrain your body to withstand the sexual stimulation it takes to reach orgasm.

Most men learn to ejaculate quickly in their teens in fear of getting caught. So, take your time and stretch it out for as long as you can.

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