Question:

Hello. Thanks for taking the time to read my question. I am 20-years old. I have been seeing this girl for a few months now. Before this, it had been almost two years since I had sex. When I was 17, I'd have sex a lot but I’d never last over 5 minutes, maybe a few times. If I used horny goat weed then I could last a lot longer, but still not long enough for her to reach orgasm.

The first time my girl and I had sex it was like 2 minutes. Today, we had sex and the first time was 2 minutes then some time later we tried to have sex again.

She tried sitting on me because we were on a couch but it was too hard to do, we needed a bed. Then we tried doggy, and I couldn’t get myself inside of her, so I went soft and then I eventually got hard again and it was less then a minute when I came, I felt so embarrassed.

I could feel myself about to cum because my balls and that area were getting all warm and tingly. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want her to leave me. Her past partners lasted a whole lot longer than I. What can I do to last longer?? Which herbal product works better than horny goat weed?

Please help me, thank you very much!


Answer:

Not lasting more than five minutes and having your erection go soft is very common for teens and young men. Do you also get tired easily? Problems sleeping? Any troubles with your concentration or memory? The condition you have is sometimes referred to as Youth Impotence. For teens and young men like you, there are usually two causes:

The first is termed as “performance anxiety.”

Your fears and anxieties about sex are causing you to orgasm much faster than you would like. You mentioned how you have only dated this girl for a few months.

Knowing how her past partners lasted much longer, added to the angst and unfamiliarity of having sex with someone new, can be very overwhelming. Physiologically speaking, your sympathetic nerves – responsible for ejaculation – have become over stimulated. So you begin sex already with a highly charged urge to ejaculate.

However, you said that you had this problem a few years ago when you were having more sex. If it was all with different partners, then it is most likely due to performance anxiety.

If it was all with the same partner, then your problem also includes or may be entirely the result of masturbation. This scenario happens all the time. Masturbation and sex drains a lot of important hormones and chemicals needed for a hard erection and delaying your orgasm. It takes time for your body to naturally replace these substances.

By excessively masturbating, you basically don’t have enough fuel to run your body properly when you have sex. Not enough juice to power an erection. Not enough power to hold back ejaculation.

The best thing you can do is to cut down or even eliminate masturbation while you’re having a sexual relationship. This allows your body to heal and to replenish itself in between your sexual encounters. If your body is still too weak after doing this, there are a few things you can do.

First, cut out sex too, until your body has completely healed. At your age, I doubt you are willing to take this course of action, especially with a new girlfriend.

So, your second option is replacing the lost and very needed nutrients through herbal supplements.

You mentioned how horny goat weed (also known as epimedium) helped you last a lot longer. That is a great idea. Other herbs you should use to heal your body are cistanche, dang gui, cnidium fruit, and white peony root. They will replace the vital nutrients you have depleted to increase your vigor, calm the nerves that make you ejaculate, help the muscles and tissues that delay orgasm, and increase your blood flow to give you a harder erection.

Another thing to help you delay orgasm is the sexual position you pick.

Doggy style tends to make the male orgasm easier. Instead, have her on top on you, as you had originally tried to do. This will not only give her more control and increase her likelihood of orgasm, but your blood has an easier chance of pooling into your genitals while you’re lying down. Experiment with other positions to see what works best for you.

Lastly, to be able to last long enough for her to orgasm, you must realize two things. First, some women are just physically unable to orgasm through coital sex. She may only be able to orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Or perhaps, she may be among the very few that can not orgasm at all.

Find out what works best for her. Second, women generally take longer than men to orgasm. Because of this, concentrate on more foreplay for her before you enter inside of her. Sexual stimulation is more than just vaginal penetration. Push all her other buttons before you push her final button.

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