Question:

My boyfriend has holding ejaculation problems. He's 27 now and he's been masturbating once a day since he was 15.

For the past few weeks, his performance has been really poor, he can’t last over 15 minutes. I am starting to worry. Before he can last over 30 minutes without problem, but since he started watching the porno animation over the Internet, he began to cum really fast.

I don’t want to embarrass him, but I need him to last at least 30-40 minutes. Please advise ASAP.


Answer:

Watching pornos can get you more excited than usual. Some men develop the bad habit of needing it to become aroused.

In your boyfriend’s case, since he was already able to get excited (and I’m assuming, get a hard erection), the animations have now fully stimulated him before sex even begins. It has become his foreplay. Which is why he isn’t lasting as long as he used to. Sex isn’t just physical. Our minds must be stimulated too. This is why anxiety, stress, and other mental factors can often affect sexual abilities.

The obvious solution for you is to have your boyfriend stop watching the films, especially before it turns into an addiction. The occasional porno every now and then shouldn’t hurt, but if he’s obsessing over them and letting it interfere with your sex life, then it is a problem.

You should first talk to him. Let him know how you feel about his behavior and how you have been unsatisfied with his performance. I know you don’t want to embarrass him, but he’s never going to improve the situation if he doesn’t know the problem exists.

If this isn’t something that can be worked out between the two of you, consider counseling. A therapist may be able to help him work through his issues and confront his need for the videos.

Though the pornos could be a great concern and cause for his problem, he should also address his masturbation. Excessive masturbation is an addiction itself. Doing it once a day, on top of the sexual activity you two have, is too straining for his body. The pornos may not be the sole cause, but rather the last bit of strain to push his body over its limits.

He might have been able to sustain his behaviors while he was younger, but it seems his age is starting to catch up to him. The male body naturally peaks in hormone production and sexual ability in his twenties and slowly declines from there. Nothing should normally be noticeable until he reaches his fifties, where a more dramatic drop of hormone production is experienced.

However, masturbation will greatly increase this drop to abnormal levels much sooner and more severe than expected, which can greatly reduce his sexual performance. Your boyfriend’s constant masturbation has seriously increased his “sexual age” to that of an old man.

Twelve years of constant masturbation will have a very serious effect on the body. Which means recovery won’t happen overnight, but . . . it CAN happen.
The first thing your boyfriend should do is to reduce masturbation. Once a day is too much, especially while he’s having sex with you. He should limit himself to twice a week. If you two have a very active sex life, he should consider stopping it altogether. His body needs time to rest and replenish itself between your sexual encounters.

Besides time, his body needs the proper nutrients to manufacture sexual chemicals and hormones. Most of these can be obtained through proper diet and exercise. However, his body may have become too weak to repair itself on its own. A boost in nutrition and the systems needed for sex (hormonal glands, autonomic nervous system, blood flow, etc.) may be required.

Have him consider taking herbal supplements. A product known as EndurMax would greatly benefit him. It is specially designed to help him hold his ejaculation.

By increasing nutrients, improving blood flow, and nourishing the nerves and tissues needed for sex, EndurMax will address many if not all the problems he is experiencing.

But more importantly, EndurMax can help calm the sympathetic nerves (these nerves are responsible for the urge to ejaculate), which the pornos have overstimulated.

Give time to let the herbal nutrients do their job. His problems took years to build up, so it’ll take a little bit of time to reverse. But once he has healed his body and changed his habits, he’ll be able to satisfy you like he used to.

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